Category: Singles Spit Swap
So, the subject says it all.
I felt so great. moved back to my home town.
Had a lot to look forward too.
I met this guy who lives in my building.
sure, he was distant he put his friends over me he always needed time to himself but would be with his friends.
right, needless to say i made excuses for him
Truth was he was mentally abusing me and i was too damn blind to see it.
But i thought he was "the one" this time.
Well he dumped me.
It took me a few months of crying and talking things out.
Talked to a psychic who said i needed to get to know myself before i dove in for another relationship
Yeah, well i know more about me now.
I know what i need
Someone who can handle me with my mood swings and all Someone who can tell me and there friends they need time to themselves.
I am so damn sick of being hurt.
I know, it could be worse but i am waiting around for the better surprise.
the one that brings a soulmate.
Someone who actually gives a damn about me for more than just sex
I used to think love would happen and things would be great now i am not so sure.
I am just so sick of pain
I want my love life to come out of the toilet but it doesnt look like it will.
but i am thinkin i shouldnt search for love.
let it find me.
It is often difficult to learn about yourself. It doesn't make it easier when people try to destract you along the way. My advice to you is to just try to enjoy yourself and don't take yourself so seriously.
Hello, I agree with the last poster. Just stay single for now and don’t settle for second best. If you have doubts in the beginning that it’s not going to work out then just let it go. It’s not worth giving it a try if the guy is mentally abusive. Besides mind games are misleading and it will not get you anywhere, it will only cause you lots of confusions and frustrations. Why do you make excuses for him, if you think something is not right then it’s not right? Covering up his mistakes and thinking that second chances will work its way will never happen. If the first time you tried didn’t work out, what makes you think the second time will? It’s just the same old story, you’re just putting yourself in the same cycle. You’re just wasting your time. Not knowing what you want is not a weakness. Use it to your advantage. Use it to build yourself. You don’t have to have a boyfriend to be happy. Just be single and focus more on yourself. Personal growth and self respect is more important than going from one relationship to the next. Getting to know your self doesn’t happen overnight, it requires a lot of time. If you don’t give yourself sometime to be alone, it will be harder later on. Don’t wait around or look for someone new. The best things happen unexpectedly. Just work on yourself first and find productive things to occupy your time. And if you meet someone in the future, take it slow; don’t immediately rush into a relationship with the guy. Just be friends and get to know him first. I hope this helps.
oh no the mentally abusive one was the last one. i gave it three months and finally got over him he is scum in a sense if he has to treat women that way i would hate to see how he turns out.
Jenni I hope you find love even if it may be the hardest thing in the world to find. I think best kind of love is the one you are not looking for.And it is always best to know what you need and what you want. I think that god does not give you anything you want he gives u what u need
i truely agree. smile.
I am the same, need somebody to be able to handle my mood swings. I have not had a realationship for years. But it doesn't matter. Maybe it will happen in the end. I take things to seriously as well.
Sorry that guy turned out to be mentally abusive. and yeah, don't try too hard to find someone. Before you jump into something, sit back and evaluate them. Make sure they have the qualities you're looking for and don't settle for what you don't want. It's a mistake to be with someone just for the sake of being with someone. It usually doesn't end well.
Well "Desperate times call for Desperate measures," I suppose. Maybe?
Well, at a certain point, people can get lonely enough, or horny enough, to let good judgement start to slip. You see it every day and rarely are the results positive.
Ya know, this is interesting. I mean, if life is full of surprises then keeping things neutral will know doubt make you happier in the end. But, you shouldn't think about it to much.